Whenever I asked my mum to go trick or treating for Halloween she would say ‘Hallo-kini‘ which means ‘Hallo- what‘ in Yoruba. Now to my mum who was born and raised in Nigeria the concept of Halloween and celebrating something that focuses on witches, wizards and other dark things was and still is absurd.

Halloween has a lot of dark connotations, we think witchcraft, spells, ghosts and ghouls. Things that as Christians we overtly are against.


Now, I am not here to slay Halloween, because I do not know the origins of it and neither am I really interested to be honest.   But like Halloween, there are many things in life, I don’t know the origins of or fully agree with but still find myself engaged in and sometimes celebrating.

Is this bad? Not necessarily. Are these things evil or against God? Nope, not necessarily.

What is against God is when these things take number 1 priority. Especially as He commands us not to:

 have any God besides Him

(Exodus 20:3-5)

Many of these things start of as healthy desires and aspirations but can slowly and subtly evolve into mini idols and end up being things hallowed; revered, worshiped and held in high esteem.

Some of my past and present idols are:

  • my career
  • money
  • certain relationships
  • material things like clothes, shoes, bags

And I could go on…


These things have at one point taken precedence over God. I don’t think I’ve ever intentionally set out to place these things above God. But sometimes they consume my thoughts, actions and days thus becoming mini-gods.

Many of us do not celebrate Halloween because we associate it with things that are ‘anti-Christ’. The truth is, in our lives we celebrate and exalt many things that we shouldn’t which is actually a form of idol worshipping and is ‘anti-Christ’.


On the this Hallows eve I encourage you to think back to all the things that you have placed above God.

The things that you have made number 1 in your life that has nothing or very little to do with God or His Kingdom.

This could be anything, even ‘good things’ such as your family, ministry, relationships, personal goals and achievements.


Ideally, everything should be under God in your life. But it’s really easy for this not to be the case. Our focus can shift and priorities subconsciously rejigged. Which can be a problem.

One day to the penultimate month of the year and I’m about to take stock of these idols, dark thoughts and ungodly desires so they can be dashed and dethroned.
So The One who owns my life and destiny can sit comfortably in that esteemed positon in my heart and life.

Happy Hallows Eve (A Godly one)

In truth and with love

Faith xox

New New



So summer is officially over, and we are now in Autumn/Fall.  I say this, well type this whilst staring out of my window, with the fan on because it’s still warm, still bright and sunny.

This summer has been great, you can check out some of the things that I got up to here.

When I took these pictures, I had a post in mind, but I don’t feel like sharing it today… maybe next time.

I thought I would share something based on my current mood; real time mood of October 3rd 2016.

Today I woke up very grateful.  I spent time with God in prayer, mainly of thanks, followed by reading His Word, and then more thanks.  The reason for my gratitude is simple. 

I’m alive and kicking.

In the month of September, there were too many sudden deaths of young people, I’m talking early 20s – late 20s, which was and still is really sad.  So when I woke up today, I was happy. I wanted to express to God that I was grateful for another day and another chance at this thing called life.


And that is my theme for the month: NEW, NEW!

grateful-4With this brand new day we have the opportunity to make things right with our loved ones, to pursue our dreams, and to love on God and His people.

It’s a New Week, New Month, and New Season.


Let’s go into this new beginning with a:

 reNEWed Mindset:

 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.’ (Philippians 4:13)

a reNEWed Attitude:

 ‘Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God’ (Philippians 4:6 )

reNEWed Perspective:

‘And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose’(Romans 8:28).



Happy New Month! 


In truth and with love, 


Faith xox





This post was written months ago with the provisional title ‘Keys to Success’. Reluctant to post, I left it to one side.

Yesterday during a brief conversation with a younger friend, she asked if I could write about success and not being where you would like to be. I directed her to Birthday Blues. I sensed her frustration and I could relate to it.  It’s that time of year when many have gone back to school/work after summer. The end of 2016 is slowly creeping up on us, which means moments of reflection, and an abundance of mental Q&As.  And at this time of year this cycle of reflection is fairly common.

During the conversation with this friend, I wanted to ask what was stopping her from being successful, what was preventing her from becoming this person she longed to be and what was hindering her achieving her goals? Knowing her I predicted her responses and decided to dig up ‘Keys to Success’, but have this post focused on one specific component of success; Commitment.
When you see people you consider successful or people you admire.  Have a deep think about how they got to where they are and what it took. I’m sure their journey to success involved a lot of hard work, consistency and a tenacious spirit in the midst of knock backs and setbacks. Most people don’t like sharing the tough and trying times; so we’re fooled into believing the road they walked was jolly and smooth.



When we take a closer look at these people, a current theme can be identified; unrelenting dedication aka COMMITMENT.   This means whether they had an entourage of supporters they were committed to their goal. When things looked bleak, they were committed to their goal. When things were going well, they still remained committed to their goal.

In my books, commitment is a synonym of sacrifice.  When Jesus addressed the crowd regarding the cost of following Him, He asked: “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?’ (Luke 14:28)  I believe He asked this question because many people like the sound of doing something great, or the idea of becoming someone great, failing to realise that something will have to give. 

You must first consider; what it will take, what will be required of you, what will need before embarking on projects, ‘For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you’ (Luke 14:29).


Let’s look at some of these costs:

Time: We all have the same 24 hours, and 7 days a week.  How do you spend yours? What are your priorities? What do you commit to that you don’t need to? What do you fail to commit to, that really deserves your time?

Money:  What are you spending your money on? Do you invest in yourself/ your idea/your business/project? Do your expenses reflect what you want and who you desire to become?

‘Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.’ (Matthew 6:21).

Immediate Pleasure: You may have to give that show on Netflix, or impulsive purchase a pass for now as you focus on your goal. Are you able to delay immediate gratification?

Social Events: You may have to skip a few social events to give yourself extra time to work on that project.

Sleep: Again you may have to forfeit a few hours to work on that impending deadline…it’s just for a season. Ask yourself do you sleep too much? Are you lazy? Do you procrastinate?

‘A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest and poverty will come on you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man.’ (Proverbs 24:33-34).

Character: This will be tested and tried.  Your response to issues will highlight your strengths as well as areas which you need to work on. Be prepared to make mistakes, some publicly, but always be open to correction.

‘[…]the one who heeds correction gains understanding.’ (Proverbs 15:32).

Discipline: Developing strategies, and turning practices into habits and a lifestyle.  Are you able to devise a well thought out to do list, and follow through? Are you able to discern between urgent and important?

People: Some people may have to go, or certain relationships may have to take a backseat for the time being if goals and visions are not aligned.  This doesn’t mean dropping friends, but apply wisdom as to who you are spending time with and how much.

‘Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?’ (Amos 3:3)


Think about some of your goals and dreams. Have you sat down to have a real conversation with yourself regarding the cost? Are you willing to make sacrifices; give up a little bit of ‘now’ pleasures for a greater gain?

Don’t get me wrong, I believe in favour, chance, breaks and opportunities, but more and more I’m starting to realise the power of commitment and consistency.   If you want to be successful, you have got to be focused and put in the work.

Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will stand in the presence of kings. He will not stand in the presence of unknown men.

(Proverbs 22:29)

Diligence is: ‘Constant and earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken; persistent exertion of body or mind’ (definition from Dictionary.com)
Commitment is the part that sifts the wheat from the chaff, the adept from the inept, and the mediocre from the outstanding.

We all know we live in a microwave generation, where there is great emphasis on ‘now, now, now’. Many of us don’t like to or even know how to work hard. We want the greatest gains with minimal input.  This mentality of immediate gratification is evident in our attitude towards things and our physical inability to endure. When things don’t work out as expected we give up, and label it as a fail.

Commitment is the separation process. Being diligent means not giving up after the second, third and even fourth try- if it’s something you really want.  Commitment distinguishes the capable from the incapable and the lazy from the skilled.


Take time out to set yourself SMART Goals. You have your bigger goal; break it down to Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-bound goals. The smaller and more specific the goal the easier it will be to achieve, because you have a plan of exactly what you should be doing, when, with whom and with what resources.  This increases your level of adherence to the goal and ups the likelihood of success.  A smaller goal achieved encourages you to continue, and also contribute to your overall bigger goal being accomplished.

Whether your goals are tiny, small, or massive you have to apply yourself. Tell yourself this is what I have set to do, I will give it my best shot and stick at it till it’s completed. That is commitment.

Do not compare yourself to others; you don’t know what they are doing behind closed doors. Think about when you were in school and you had tests or projects. You always had those people who you would chill with, making you think you were on the same level. Unbeknown to you those A* kids were committed to success.  I wondered how they did it when we spent so much time together and I didn’t see them study. But the truth is when no one was there they reminded themselves of their commitment to achieving high grades and applied themselves by studying.



Even when things seem to crumble before you, pick yourself up and remain committed – that is diligence.

Think back to a moment or a task that you set out to do; you gave it your all, and were consistent in your actions.  How did it turn out? Honestly? Probably better than all the other things you set out to do halfheartedly.

Commitment involves a change in mind-set accompanied by changes in behaviour.


Challenge your current self by asking:

  • Have you ever started something and actually seen it through? How did it turn out?
  • Do you start, stop, give up, start again then eventually stop?
  • Are you able to put aside immediate gratification for future pleasure?
  • When you say you are going to do something, be somewhere do you fulfil it?
  • If you were absent and people saw your work – would you be embarrassed, ashamed? Would you need to be there to justify you work, its quality?
  • When you do deliver is it the best of your ability? Or do you just get the job done, for the sake of getting it done even if it means quality is compromised?
  • Are you reliable? Can you be counted on?
  • Do you need others to spur you on? Can you go alone? Do you reach out to people outside of your circle?
  • Are you easily distracted? Do you find it difficult to make decisions?

If I provided my answer to the above questions I’m sure you would all see that commitment for me is a real struggle.


Commitment means not giving up despite the tough times.  Commitment means putting your best foot forward every time, even if no one is looking.  Commitment gets you noticed.  Commitment pays off.  And your commitment will show and be rewarded!

On that note, I renew my commitment to this blog.  I hereby commit to my initial aim of two posts a week. I’d love to know what you’re committed to.  Please share by commenting below so we can be accountable to each other.


In truth and with love

Faith xox

Wardrobe Staples: The White SHIRT



My wardrobe is pretty basic; I have a few clothes on repeat.

One of my key recyclable pieces is ‘The White Shirt’.

The white shirt is a wardrobe staple for everyone; young, old, male, female, white, black, tall and short.  It suits the trend-setting, en-vogue, life slaying Naomi, and the hmm can’t really be bothered plain Jane. Whatever your personal style the white shirt is probably still a must for you.white-shirt-with-scaarf-from-insta

The same white shirt can be dressed up to work, events, functions and church (you know I had to slide that in there) and dressed down to the park, shopping or just chilling with friends.


I have a few white shirts, this one being one of my favourites. I like the capey, crop style of  the shirt and the bat wings makes it cooler than your typical shirt.

What I love about the white shirt is its versatility.  

The white shirt highlights to me what we need to be as Christians.

Paul tells us how he made himself all things to all men, in order that some might be saved (1 Corinthians 9:19-23).

To the Jews he related as a Jew, to those governed by law, he made himself relevant and relatable.  Being versatile does not give us licence to sin, compromise or conform.   It just means we should be accommodating, approachable, understanding and relatable in our service to people.

Let’s take Jesus as our case study. He was able to appropriately address high officials, ministers of religion and the aristocrats of society (Matt 19:16-30, Mark 5:21-43, Matt 15:1-20).  And He was comfortable chilling with people who were deemed by society as outcasts (Mark 2:13-17, John 8:-11); the prostitutes, adulterers, tax collectors and sinners. To top it off He was humble enough to make Himself accessible to the little ones (Mark 10:13-16). He demonstrated through His life what it meant to be all things to all men, without once compromising the essence of who He was.


With a clear understanding of His assignment, His ministry was aimed at the lost, broken and wounded, people that can be found in all areas and social classes of our world.

Like Jesus, we ought to demonstrate a love for all. For some of us this may mean learning to love, relate and reach out to people that do not look or sound like us.  We must make a conscious effort to reach out to people who are ostracised, hurting, broken and rejected.  This may require loosening up a little and showing a bit more personality.  Let us break some of the false stereotypes of Christians as boring and strait-laced, by living a life of love and fun (without compromising!).


The Bible says:

“Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

(Romans 10:13)

Which tells us the kingdom of God doesn’t discriminate; it’s not an exclusive family because salvation is a one size fits all – it is for all who make the decision to accept Jesus as Lord and Saviour (Acts 2:21).



So, Just like the white shirt can be dressed up and dressed down to suit the occasion, let us try in our lives in the same manner.

In truth and with love

Faith xox

Heart Check


A few weeks ago one of my good friends had a WhatsApp status up titled ‘Heart Check’.  She shared her reason for the status, which resonated with me so much I spent the rest of my weekend questioning the state of my heart.  I checked my motives for doing and saying certain things and soon realised that I was way over due a thorough examination and Heart Check.

Cognisant of the state of my heart, I knew there were many infectious thoughts and motives that I had allowed to contaminate it.

I realised, I needed to work on my breathing, too many shallow breaths, caused by anger, quick frustration and a lack of patience.  I was definitely starved of essential nutrients given by The Word, and full of  sin, lusts of the world and desires of the flesh.


Rewind a few weeks. I was having a conversation with another friend and we were talking about being fruitful. She shared a conversation she had with a mutual friend of ours about the fig tree that was cursed by Jesus because it wasn’t producing fruit (Matthew 21:18–22). She explained this friend’s belief of why this incident involved a tree,  was because trees have roots. Therefore, it wasn’t just about the lack of fruits on the tree but the fact that there was something wrong with the roots; it was the very core of the tree that made it barren.  

As I mulled over this, I agreed, the tree didn’t produce fruit because there was something wrong with its source, the roots.  


 – Feed the tree as most of the nutrients for it to grow is obtained and stored here

– Anchors the tree; providing stability through times of harsh weather

So if something is wrong with the roots; the foundation of the tree it doesn’t take a scientist to determine there will be something wrong with whatever the tree produces or doesn’t…

The same could easily be applied to our hearts; our core and central control system.  Issues with our heart means issues with the rest of us.



From the get go, God introduced the law of producing your own kind.  In Genesis, He states:

“…Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding fruit after his kind, whose seed is in itself, upon the earth: and it was so.  And the earth brought forth grass, and herb yielding seed after his kind, and the tree yielding fruit, whose seed was in itself, after his kind: and God saw that it was good.” 

(Genesis 1:11-12)

God further reinforces this law by stating:

“…Let the earth bring forth the living creature after his kind, cattle, and creeping thing, and beast of the earth after his kind: and it was so. And God made the beast of the earth after his kind, and cattle after their kind, and everything that creepeth upon the earth after his kind: and God saw that it was good.”

 (Genesis 1:24-25)

Now, the fig tree obviously wasn’t producing its own kind else Jesus would have found and eaten the figs He was looking for.

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When we are not producing what is expected of us by God we need to go back to our roots and perform a vital  heart check.

  • What is clogging up the systems designed to feed us, bring us nutrients?
  • Why is the Word not coming up and giving us strength, sustenance?
  • What has blocked The Word from working in our lives?
  • Why are we not stable during the harsh conditions of life?
  • Why do we toss to and fro with circumstances?

Heart Check

  • We don’t want to be cursed, wither and die (a spiritual death) because our roots are so saturated in sin we no longer have any evidence of God in our lives.

Heart Check

  • Do you have the heart of God?  Are you moved by what moves Him? Are you disgusted by what disgusts Him? Do you have a heart of love, compassion, forgiveness?


Just as we get our physical health checked out regularly, we need to take time out to have regular and thorough heart checks. When I did this I found the state of my heart to be quite shocking.  I’d like to think I’m a nice person, but this exercise (which I am still doing today) revealed that indeed ‘The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt’ (Jeremiah 17:9). Honestly, I thank God for His grace, that despite His finds after searching my heart  (Psalm 139:1), He is still at hand to help.

We are kindly reminded that ‘…we have been born again not of corruptible seed, but of the incorruptible seed, which is the Word of God’ (1 Peter 1:23), which is good because it means there is hope!

Regular heart checks exposes things that can lead to heart failure, bareness and death!  It gives us the chance to take it to Jesus, the Great Physician to help us.


To keep our hearts working in good order and to be fruitful we need to:

Remain in Him, as He also remains in us. Because no branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine,(Christ) neither can we bear fruit unless you remain in Him (The Vine).

(Taken from John 15:4)

In truth and with love

Faith xox

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